Loving and Losing.

A friend of mine lost her little pea at exactly 8 weeks of gestation just recently. It was a case of early fetal demise where the tiny embryo stopped developing on the 6th week. As a long time friend who has witnessed their love and their marriage (they were wed December last year), I grieve for their loss. And as I’ve told my friend, all the more that I can feel her pain because I’m a mother, too. And her experience was yet again another eye-opener for me of how God sets things in the right time. Another realization sets in that God doesn’t mean that He’s meaning to punish us for nothing when He gives us trials. These trials and sufferings are actually a blessing in itself. We may not perfectly understand what His plans and intentions are, but somewhere beneath those pain is an assurance…a blessing that we fail to see…because doubt, distrust and hatred clouds it right away.

Of course, a loss is still a loss. But in this particular situation, if it will help my friend to recover from this tragedy, losing it at 8 weeks is better than losing it at a later month when her offspring is bigger, during delivery or even after when the attachment has become more intense . Even for just 8 weeks, she was given the chance to be a budding mom..a confirmation, that they are capable of making a baby. Even for just a moment, she felt how it was to be excited, inspired and given a hope that she can be a Mom..only it’s just not the right time. A lot of TTC couples have been dying to be given that chance.

Just as a love quote goes: It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have it all.